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What is My Child’s Personality Type? (Or Deep Down, Who is This Child?)

5/1/2020

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When my three kids were younger, we enjoyed doing personality and gifting tests to see if the tests matched what we knew about ourselves and each other. When we would go over the test results, we would usually say to each other, “OH! That makes sense. That’s why you do the things you do.” Knowing our personality types has allowed us to have a greater understanding of ourselves and our family members as we offer grace and acceptance when we differ in our thoughts and actions.
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We read aloud to our kids in the evening even when they were in their teens because we wanted our family to be able to discuss the information we were learning while we were learning it. When it comes to understanding family members, one of the best books we read out loud to our kids was, The Gift of Dyslexia by Ronald D. Davis. Our middle child was dyslexic, and it bothered him that that he was such a late reader that his younger sister learned to read before he did. He considered his learning disabilities to be a disadvantage until we read The Gift of Dyslexia. When we finished the book, my dyslexic child’s siblings exclaimed, “That is so cool how you see the world!” They learned that those with dyslexia think and perceive multidimensionally, think in pictures instead of words and can utilize the brain’s ability to alter and create new perceptions.  
While one child was dyslexic, another one was introverted. A book that helped us all understand her better was The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney. Reading that book allowed my introverted daughter to feel that she could accept herself and be grateful for her particular strengths and not feel like 
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she had to act like the … well… the MUCH louder extroverted members of our family (of which I am one).

There are many books that can help us understand ourselves and others. Two of the first books we used when the kids were pretty young were Discover Your Child’s Learning Style by M. Willis and V.K. Hodson and Discover Your God Given Gifts by Don and Katie Fortune. Both of these books contain questionnaire-type tests that allowed us to learn even more about our natural abilities and learning styles. 
One test that our whole family took and one and that I recommend to the students who are doing career counseling with me is the Myers Briggs test. There are several free test options online, but the one I use is called 16 Personalities. The test asks questions that help individuals determine if they are:

1. Extroverted (Get energy from outside themselves) or Introverted (Energized by being alone)
2. Intuitive (Deal with ideas and live in future) or Sensing (Deal with facts and live in the now.)
3. Thinking (Follow their minds, facts and logic) or Feeling (Follow their hearts, feelings and impact on others.)
4. Judging (Decisive, attending to details, task oriented) or Perceiving (Relaxed, prefer freedom and flexibility)
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The test results will link to job options and other useful information that fit the given personality type. A book that goes along with Myers Briggs personality types is Do What You Are by P.D Tiger.
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Isabel Briggs Myers once said, “We cannot safely assume that other people's minds work on the same principles as our own. All too often, others with whom we come in contact do not reason as we reason, or do not value the things we value, or are not interested in what interests us.”

This quote is especially important for the children in our society. Kids spend many hours and numerous years in school. For parents 
​whose children are in a school setting, knowing your child’s personality type can help you assist them in navigating the daily challenges of being in a situation that may not fit their personality type. According to Penelope Trunk, nearly all colleges and Fortune 500 companies use the

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Is My Child Lazy? (Or Does My Child Need an Accountability Partner?)

4/1/2020

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Author Dr. Mel Levine has written a thought-provoking book which begins with the premise that no adult or child is inherently lazy. He states in The Myth of Laziness that everyone wants to succeed and accomplish their goals, and an inability to do so can often be linked to difficulty with various output tasks. He says that there are four common forms of organizational problems.
1. Managing Complex Tasks: For students, tasks such as studying for a final exam, writing a report, or initiating a new project involve assembling multiple components. Students who struggle with organizing the parts and putting them together often need help as they learn to stress the planning stage of each endeavor and break the project into small steps to make it more manageable. Also, having a clear vision of the final product can help.
 
2. Managing Time: The problem here comes from understanding how long a project will take, difficulty with multitasking, knowing what to do when, and procrastination.  Some students (and some adults, too!) need an “organization coach” – someone who can help with scheduling and meeting deadlines. 

3. Material Management: If a person’s room or office is a mess and they constantly lose important items and papers, they probably have difficulty with material management. Dr. Levine states that most of the worst material disasters happen at the critical transition points during the day as a person goes from one activity to the next. A helpful intervention would be to slow down at each transition (Leaving for school, going to music lessons, finishing homework etc.) and ask yourself questions such as, “Have I left anything behind?” or “Do I have what I need for the next activity?”
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4. Prioritizing: Before a child is eleven or twelve, his life is arranged for him, and he does not have to make decisions on how best to use his time. But once he hits his teen years, he has the competing priorities of multiple teachers and classes, recreational activities, peer relationships and other obligations and responsibilities. With help and direction, a student can determine what is the most important and learn how to keep from wasting time or spending too much time on trivial pursuits.
 
Levine states that other trouble spots such as poor motor function, difficulty with language, memory difficulties, mental-energy (maintaining alertness) control or social distractibility can cause a child or adult to put forth a low level of output and “products” of poor quality. Having an accountability partner can help. 
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Parents are a child’s first accountability partner, and when my kids were small, I remember taking poster board and creating colored pockets to hold index cards that listed each day’s studies and chores, and we posted this “accountability chart” on the refrigerator. When an activity was completed, my kids could move the labeled index cards from one pocket to another, and it was very clear what had gotten done that day. 
As they grew older, accountability charts transitioned into paper check lists in their school folders. (We homeschooled our kids from kindergarten through high school.) The list expanded to include more chores, exercise and extracurricular activities, but I still checked in with them every day (or every week when they were older) to help them make sure they were on track to meet their goals. My children are now grown, but as a tutor, I am able to help even more kids learn to manage their time, space and complex tasks.   

 Parental support is very important through the teen years and beyond, but as a youth gets older, an outside accountability partner can provide training that can make the move to adulthood easier while helping the parent/child relationship transition to a new level as well. 
               
Assessing the difficulties that students have with their various challenges and then helping them come up with and implement a plan to overcome these barriers is one of the rewarding aspects of the coaching and accountability partnering that I do when I am tutoring a student. 

Because students’ abilities to plan, time manage and prioritize are still developing, I often create accountability charts for them so they have a visual reminder of what needs to be accomplished, and so they can have the satisfaction of marking a task as completed when they finish one of their goals. Because I see the students that I tutor every week, I can visually check to see that their accountability charts are filled in and that they are completing the goals we have worked together to set for them. There is an old saying that is very true – “What gets measured gets 

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And Just Like That, Homeschooing Became Mandatory, for Everyone! Online Tutoring and How It Works at Up and Over Educational Services

3/20/2020

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As I write this in March of 2020, the major topic in the news and in our conversations in the Coronavirus. Life has changed dramatically for many of us as we stay home under the government’s orders to “Shelter in Place.” University professors are told that all their classes will be taught online for the rest of the school year. And, perhaps most surprising of all, toilet paper has become a horded treasure.

Families around the country are finding that they are homeschooling their children for the first time. 

Many years ago, my husband and I chose to homeschool all three of our kids from kindergarten through high school, so learning at home is not a novel idea for us, but one that we feel contributed to the strong family culture we currently enjoy. But for many, homeschooling is a challenging new prospect. While some parents are receiving a stack of books from their child’s teacher, other parents are watching their students navigate online classes for the first time. 
It has been a time of change for all of us. I have been tutoring high school and college students in math, science and numerous other topics in my home office for many years, but this week, as my students transitioned to online classes, I transitioned to online tutoring. 

I have done some online tutoring in the past, but that service was usually reserved for students who had received tutoring from me in
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high school and who wanted to continue with tutoring after they left for college. Because I tutor so many subjects with students who attend a wide variety of schools, I always thought it was easiest for the students to bring their individual curriculum and assignments to my office so we could work on the homework together side by side.

This week, everything changed, and all the tutoring was done online with Skype and several other online tools, and I was pleasantly surprised to find how easy it was for me and my students to transition to this type of learning environment. It was a very successful experience for all of us.

HOW IT WORKS: For those of you who are considering Online Tutoring, here is how it works at Up and Over Educational Services.

Each student needs a laptop or desk top computer with audio and visual capabilities as well as a Skype account or a Zoom account. Currently I am using Skype with Zoom as a backup. Students call in at their scheduled tutoring time, and after a quick greeting and discussion of the day’s goals, I share my computer screen where I can pull up assignments on Gmail, and where I can use an online white board feature to write out math problems and chemical formulas. 

All students provide copies of their assignments and textbooks ahead of time by either scanning (or taking photos of) the documents and emailing them to me or by providing an extra textbook. Additional documents can be shown using the “sharing” feature on Skype or Zoom.
 
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This student has a webcam set up at home so that I can see his assignments through Skype while he is working on them. On my laptop computer, I have his lab pulled up plus a copy of the assignment that I received through Gmail.
For students who are doing upper level chemistry or math, having an extra web cam that points down to where the student is writing can be helpful but is not required. 

For students who are studying English or History,  the Google Docs program is used so that the tutor can see the writing process in real time and contribute verbal and written assistance. 


For many years, I have enjoyed having students come to my home office for their learning sessions, and since I usually have a full schedule of students plus students on a waiting list, I have not considered moving to online tutoring... until now.  I am delighted to find that online tutoring is working very well for my students. We are finding that there are several added benefits too. Because tutoring is happening in the home, the student no longer has to spend time and gas money traveling to my office. I have had students travel to weekly tutoring sessions from as far as 45 to 50 miles away, and that can be substantial time and gas savings.
Students who have slight colds and who were not permitted to come to tutoring can now receive their instruction in the comfort of their own homes (maybe even in the pajamas!) while the rest of the students – and their tutor – stay well.
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The Corona Virus pandemic is changing how I tutor students, and I think it will change our society in many other ways, and perhaps for the better. 

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This is the set up that one of my college tutoring students has in his home so that I can see his assignments while he is working on them. While this set up is not required, it is helpful in some situations.
Businesses are now requiring that their employees work from home. It will be interesting to see if companies find that their employees can be every bit as productive at home as they were in the office. If they can be, will that mean that fewer people will need to commute to work? Already cities that have required people to stay home are experiencing cleaner air. The typical commute is over 52 minutes round trip per day. Think of all the time (and gas) saved if people did not commute every day.

Schools are now requiring that students study and learn at home. With college students no longer on campus, will we find that online college education is just as valuable? All three of my kids finished their bachelor’s degrees through online programs at accredited public school universities, but at a much lower cost than the typical on-campus university experience. They all got a great education and graduated with no student debt. You can read more about it here:

www.upandovered.com/blog/how-did-all-three-of-your-three-kids-get-their-accredited-state-university-degrees-for-under-20000-each-and-why-is-college-so-expensive

Many families are now homeschooling who would have never considered that possibility before. Homeschooling was one of the greatest joys of my life. My children are grown adults now, but all attest that homeschooling changed our lives for the better. You build close relationships with the people you spend the most time with. Perhaps we will come out of the pandemic with a deeper appreciation and love for our families.

We are all experiencing a larger amount of free time now that we are not out and about as much. And perhaps what our society needed the most was a chance to rest. (and sleep more!) And even with the mandated “Shelter at Home,” I am finding that I can use this extra time and some online tools like Skype to stay connected to family and friends… and to my students too!

None of us know how long this pandemic will last nor do we know how long our children will be learning at home. Online tutoring is an important resource as we navigate these new educational waters. If you need some help, I would be happy to discuss the possibilities of online tutoring with you, so feel free to contact me at the email address below.
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Stay safe and stay well!
All the best,
Debra Newby
info@UpandOverED.com
www.UpandOverED.com

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SAT vs ACT – Which One Should a Student Take? And When?

2/1/2020

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​Hello! Welcome to my new blog where I answer scholastic questions and share information to help you navigate the challenging waters of your child’s education. I have been blogging since 2009 when I wrote about Heritage Dance and family life. Two years ago I began writing a blog about math patterns in music when I started writing my “Popular 8 Note Songs” series of music pattern song books.

But my primary vocation and life focus is educating students and helping them grow in confidence and ability so they can pursue their dreams for a better future. I have been tutoring, teaching and parenting for over thirty years, and I hope that the information I have gleaned from reading, studying and living life will be helpful for you.
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One of the main questions I am asked from the parents of high school students is:
Should my student take the SAT or ACT, and when?
The SAT and ACT are both college entrance exams, and students have the option of taking either one. However, the two tests are very different. But first of all, only students who plan to attend a four year university after high school need to take a college entrance exam. There are certainly other options after high school which include going to community college, taking a year off to work or travel, joining the military or using the money one would have received for college to start a business instead.
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But for those who are heading to a four year college after high school, either the SAT or ACT is required because high schools across the nation vary in academic grading and course offerings, and these SAT and ACT college entrance exams help to level the playing field.
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How are the SAT and ACT different?

The SAT (Scholastic Assessment Test): This test has 1600 points.
 
In the math section of the SAT, students are given a list of formulas, so not all formulas need to be memorized. The test focuses mainly on algebra, and it has two sections with one section that must be completed without a calculator.
 
In the reading section, the SAT will often tell you where a section is found, and it requires you to find evidence to answer questions. The writing section focuses on vocabulary and writing style.
 
The difficulty of the SAT test questions increases throughout the test. The easiest questions come first.
 
The SAT essay section is optional but some colleges require it. Students have 50 minutes to complete an essay where they write about how the author of a passage uses evidence, such as facts or examples, to support their claims.
The ACT (American College Testing):
​This test has 36 points.

 
In the math section of the ACT, students must memorize all the formulas. The math problems also cover more geometry, logarithms, trigonometry and matrixes in addition to algebra.
 

​In the reading section, the ACT requires that you remember where information is located, and the writing section focuses on grammar and sentence structure. 
 
The difficulty of the ACT test questions are sorted randomly on the test, so being able to skip difficult questions and come back to them is an important skill.
 
The ACT essay is optional and students are given 40 minutes to evaluate three different perspectives and then provide their own perspective and relate it to one of the perspectives given in the prompt. 

​The ACT also has a science section where students must read charts and graphs, A strong science vocabulary is helpful.
The biggest difference between the SAT and ACT is the amount of time allotted for each section. A student has much less time on the ACT and must be able to read and comprehend at a rapid rate, but the reading difficulty is lower. One blog I read compared the ACT and SAT reading sections in this way:  The ACT test is like reading Newsweek with less time. The SAT test is like reading the Economist with more time. 

About fifty percent of students take the SAT and fifty percent take the ACT. Students today are


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How Did All Three of Your Three Kids Get Their Accredited State University Degrees for Under $20,000 each? (And Why is College So Expensive?)

1/1/2020

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Nobody likes to talk about money. Especially when they do not have enough of it.

College is expensive. Since 1975, college costs have increase 5 to 6 percent above inflation (or more!) every year. In 2003 the average cost of tuition rose 14 percent. Part of the reason for this is that the government continues to hand out money in the form of grants and student loans, and
the school’s costs rise to meet the ever increasing amount of money the government is willing to spend, and the ever increasing amounts of money  parents are willing to spend and willing to take on as debt so that their child can have a college education.

A good question to ask yourselves – What is the purpose of college for your family?

According to Andrew Ferguson, author of Crazy U, a book that tracks one father’s journey of getting his son into college, “In old world Europe, higher education has been conceived in almost spiritual terms, as a way to instruct maturing minds in the treasures of civilization, the guiding ideas, the political and moral philosophies, and the works of art and literature that make us what we are.” Today, many parents see college as a way for their child to get the skills they need to get a good job. Families need to decide on their vision of the purpose of college before embarking on the long road of college preparation and application.
So when it came time to start thinking about college for our own children, my husband and I asked ourselves – what non-traditional options are available? We are a “think outside the box” kind of family who decided to homeschool our children almost thirty years ago, back in the day when many people were still asking, “What in the world is homeschooling?” We had not saved up a large sum of money to spend on our kids’ college education, choosing 
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to invest the major portion of our income in violin lessons, Boy Scout Camps and long trips traveling around the country. We felt that through our homeschooling, we had spent a lot of time doing an “old world” education style, instructing our children’s minds in “the treasures of civilization… moral philosophies, and the works of art and literature that make us what we are.” For our family, college was a time to pick up some work skills that would help our kids make a living. 

We also wanted to see that happen with little to no student (or parent) debt.

Here is a quick summary on how our children drastically reduced their cost of a college education.

All three of our children have accredited state university degrees. Our eldest has a B.A. in Music from Thomas Edison State University which she earned at a cost of $8,000 total. (Keep in mind, this was ten years ago. I am sure costs have increased.) She spent one semester at Cuesta College but acquired most of her undergraduate units through AP testing at the local high school (which was allowed even though she did not attend the high school) CLEP testing at the local community college, and creating portfolios of her ability in music. Some classes were passed by sending in videos of her playing the piano and violin. Other classes were passed by submitting evidence of her participation in the San Luis Obispo Symphony and the Cal Poly University Orchestra. (Interesting side note – our daughter was never enrolled in Cal Poly and did not pay any Cal Poly tuition, but because she played her violin at a level that helped raise the other Cal Poly students’ playing ability, she was allowed to participate for free. Thomas Edison State University still gave her credit for those classes.) Her upper division units were all completed through distance learning through Thomas Edison State University. (To keep reading, click: Read More)



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How are Music and Math Connected? (And What’s the Easiest Way to Learn to Play a New Instrument?)

12/1/2019

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​For years I have been fascinated by patterns and the connection between music and math. For most of the time my two daughters were growing up, I sat in weekly Suzuki Violin lessons with them – taking copious notes as all “good Suzuki moms” do. As I sat and listened, and I realized that while my girls were fortunate to have music lessons, not every child had that opportunity. I began to think about ways that a student with no previous music experience could experience the joy of making music, and I wondered how I could use my math background to make that happen.
When a non-musician looks at a piece of music, he sees a bunch of symbols that have no meaning. But after some training, this same individual understands that the symbols are put together in repeating patterns that form the basis of a song. After understanding the symbols and patterns, he finds he can play a melody. It is the same way with math. Each symbol provides some information needed to solve the problem. Music and math both have repeating patterns. In mathematics, math students who can easily recognize patterns have an easier time spotting the process needed to solve an equation. For musicians, recognizing repeating patterns makes it easier to play and memorize songs.
As I listened to my daughters play at their many violin lessons, I marveled at how many songs could be played with just eight notes. I began to contemplate ways that a beginning musician could have an easy start to understanding how music patterns work, and this contemplation lead me to author a series of music pattern song books entitled Popular 8 Note Songs that I published a few years ago. 
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Suzuki students learn to play by ear before they learn to read music because reading music is difficult. In my books, I used colored blocks to indicate the notes, and the size of each block indicates the timing. As long as the new musician can match either colors or letters and recognize the changing sizes of the blocks, he or she can play songs without having any previous musical experience.

In addition to creating new music pattern books, I taught myself how to be an importer and a package designer, and I created a new product line of musical instruments including precision tuned xylophones, rhythm sets and other items. It was a fun project, but I came to the conclusion that my heart is really in teaching students rather than running a product business, and I have let the importing and (for the most part) product part of this experience go. 
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Students have different learning styles, and although the colored music patterns in the Popular 8 Note Songs books are very helpful for students who have a visual learning style, I knew that I needed to create something to help the auditory learners as well. There are now free audio tracks of all the songs in all of the books available online at www.UpadoUnlimited.com
I have always wanted to help people get “up and do” new things with their unlimited potential, so I have continued to fill my Up-a-do Unlimited website with additional free educational material. The rest of this blog will contain links to information that I hope will be helpful to you if are contemplating a new musical journey with your family. If I can answer any questions for you, please feel free to email me at info@UpandOverED.com or at info@UpadoUnlimited.com anytime!

Wishing you joy on the journey,
Debra Newby

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What is the Most Important Thing You Learned as a Mother, Parent and Educator? (And How Did You Build a Strong Family Culture?)

11/1/2019

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​Fall as here, and as we begin to look forward to the holidays and spending quality time with family and friends, we reminisce about past happy times and look forward to the shared adventures ahead. While most of my blogs discuss ways to help your child learn and move forward with their educational goals, this one will be a little different. 
This blog focuses on something that is even more important. Family.

I have been a mom for a long time – over thirty years! My kids are grown and gone, and my third grandson is due this month. And yet, my husband and I are as close to our kids now as we ever were, and we spend hours each week skyping with the two who have moved out of the area, and we see the one adult child who lives locally at least weekly. And we still all vacation together. Last November, our whole family including our three kids, our two sons-in-law and two grandchildren went on a ten day family vacation to Texas. There is great joy in having loving relationships with one’s family. 

What I have learned over these many years of being a mother is that relationships and strong character matter more than academics.

That may sound odd coming from a teacher and a tutor, especially one who homeschooled her kids from kindergarten through high school. Wait, aren’t we supposed to focus on academics so that our children can succeed in the world?  I am the first to admit that knowledge and strong skills open doors for students who have worked hard to acquire those abilities. 


And yet… isn’t it much harder for children to really succeed in the world if they do not have the character and relationships that come from a strong family culture?

I have been getting together with old friends recently, and it is interesting to hear their perspective on my family that they got while watching our children grow up. Here is what I have heard from a few longtime friends who spent years observing my family.

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My husband and our eldest daughter
“Your family always had grace and joy.” “Your family always had fun.” “All the kids always wanted to be at your house.” “Your kids were always welcomed wherever they went.”
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As I look back, it is surprising that my husband and I were able to build the family that we did. Neither one of us had an ideal upbringing, and as a child of divorced parents and a broken family, I had few tools to build the supportive and character focused culture I wanted to create with my own family. 
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Our three kids
I read many books as I tried to build a family culture of laughter, encouragement and forgiveness, and one book that helped with that is Families Where Grace is in Place. The author discusses the importance of training and empowering our kids and not controlling them through shame and manipulation. My bookcase is full of books like this and include: Siblings Without Rivalry, Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-indulgent World, The Family that Works Together… Turning Family Chores for Drudgery to Fun, How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, and so many more. Building a strong family is not something that comes naturally to most of us, and it is important to get help from books and mentors. 
I have been teaching, parenting and tutoring for over thirty years. Many people think that the sole aim of my tutoring service is to teach academics to students. Although teaching those specific facts to students is what I do to help them succeed and build confidence and have a chance for the future they envision for themselves, my wider goal is to help families grow strong by taking over the accountability and academic responsibilities with the student so the parent can focus more time on nurturing a loving family culture. It takes time and effort to build a joyful family that lasts. 
I started making a list of the many things I learned through the years on how to build a strong family, and my list is filled with over twenty key ideas, and the list continues to grow as I reminisce over the past thirty years. I chose three to include in this blog with an idea that I might put it all down in a book someday. Here are some things we did to build our family. 
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A homemade meal at a vacation cabin
1. Eat Meals Together – This one is first because when I asked my three kids what were the most significant parts of their childhood, this was number one for all of them. Dinner was the most important event of the day at our house. It was a chance to discuss what was learned that day, evaluate national and world news events, make plans for future activities and discuss dreams and desires.
I always cooked a big meal, and dinner was a leisurely event where everyone had a chance to share their stories. 

 2. Have Fun Together:  I love parties and travel and games and outdoor adventures and…. Well, I like to have fun. I also like to feed people, and that played into all the kids wanting to be at our house all the time. There were always fruit smoothies and homemade oatmeal cookies for snacks, and dinner was on the stove for whoever wanted to stay.

​And part of having fun includes creating new memories and new traditions. We read a book entitled Walk When the Moon is Full, so we started taking monthly night hikes during the full moon. We created a lot of interesting memories together and had fun.

3. Work Together: Kids need to feel important to the running of a family. Kids need chores. Our family dishes have always been kept in the lower cabinet next to the dish washer. From the time they were each four years old, all three of my kids were in charge of unloading the dishwasher. I would first take out the sharp knives and the few items that were stored above where the kids could reach, and
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How Can Students Work Smarter and Be More Productive With Their Time? (And What Are Ten Ways to Help Students Learn and Retain Knowledge?)

10/1/2019

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Learning is hard work – for all of us. And each of us will spend our lifetimes learning new skills and ideas. If students in their teens can learn effective and efficient ways to learn, they will have an ability that will benefit them for the rest of their lives. 

My friend Jim, a commercial pilot and the father of three adult children, was visiting this week, and he had just finished

the training to fly a new model of aircraft. He had a lot of memorization to do, and one of the ways he accomplished this was to organize his notes and use those notes to form a question and answer sequence. He then videotaped himself asking each of the questions, then pausing, and then answering the question. He watched his homemade video over and over again until he could say the answer to each question before the answer was said on the video. 

Did that take a lot of time and a lot of work? Yes! Did he pass his new pilot's test? Yes! Is he now flying to exotic places all over the world? Yes he is. 
Having strong skills and a wide breadth of knowledge can lead to many adventures, and people will pay you for what you know and what you can do. I often tell my tutoring students that their life is like a treasure chest, and what is inside is up to them. Each time they work hard to learn something new, they have added to their own treasure chest of knowledge, and they will be able to use that knowledge in the future.

But developing effective study skills requires a lot of time and patience, and just reading textbooks and listening to lectures is not enough.

Here are some practical ways to help students learn and retain knowledge.

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1. Exercise Before and In-between: Getting the blood pumping and moving to the brain can help a study session be much more productive. Jim, the airline pilot mentioned earlier, would do push-ups in between his study sessions to help wake himself up and increase his ability to focus. Standing while studying can help too. Although there are fancy (and expensive!) stand-up desk options, I created my own stand-up desk with a simple side table from Ikea, two shelf brackets, two screws and a shelf from Home Depot – all for under $20. (See the photo at the end of this blog.) My work day usually begins at 9 am and goes to 6 pm. I spend many hours sitting (as I think many of us do!), and before I see my first client, I usually exercise for forty-five minutes which helps keep me focused throughout the day. 

2. Eat Well and Breath: Health is an important part of good study habits, and good nutrition and reducing stress are critical. I thought about writing a blog entitled, “Is My Child A Fat Head?” because the answer to that would be yes – in a biological way. The brain is made of 60% fat, and eating a diet full of good fats and proteins in addition to healthy carbs can make a difference. Many students subsist on junk food, but switching to a healthy diet and learning to relax and breath between study sessions makes studying easier and more productive.


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3. Understand the Study Cycle: According to Frank Christ, the developer of The Study Cycle Theory, the process of studying can be broken down into five parts: previewing, attending class, reviewing, studying, and checking your understanding. Many students miss key components of The Study Cycle. For example, few students read the material ahead of time before the lecture, but when students preview the material, they create places in their brain where they can hang the new information they learn in the lecture. Also, by skipping the reading preview, they miss the benefit of having the information repeated to the in a listening mode after experiencing the material in a reading mode. All five components of The Study Cycle are required for solid learning.
4. Review Daily: Scientists have found that the first time a student hears a lecture or studies something new, he or she will retain up to 80% of the information IF the material is reviewed within 24 hours. Interestingly, the effect is cumulative, so if students review every day, after a week the student may retain a full 100% of the knowledge after only five minutes of review. This works so much better than cramming on the last day for the test. It is better to review close to the time that the material is learned as opposed to close to the time of the test. 

​5. Write and Draw it Out: Often students will finish a week of school with a three-ring binder crammed with notes. What the student really needs from these notes are the key ideas, so time spent underlining or highlighting key words can help. Also, rewriting these key ideas on another sheet of paper in a condensed form (and perhaps as an outline) will help the brain connect information and form patterns.

Making connections is what learning is all about, and for some students drawing out mind maps, 
charts, and story webs can help. When I was tutoring my son who was taking a community college history class, I would help him go through his copious notes, and I would draw out mind maps for him so he could see the connection between the many facts he was learning. 
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Are Online Classes the Right Choice for My Child? (And What Does This Have to do With A Flipped Classroom?)

9/1/2019

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There is a world of new educational options available today, and many students are beginning to take more of their courses online instead of in a classroom setting. While online classes allow a student to work on their own time schedule and skip the commute to school and from class to class, many parents are finding that their kids – 
– especially junior high and high school students – are struggling. 

Three of the biggest problems with online classes are:
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1. More Time and More Work:

​Online courses typically require more assignments and a lot more reading than traditional classes. This may be particularly difficult for students whose learning modalities do not favor visual learning and who do not retain what they read very well. And because there is no in-person instructor to assess the completion of learning goals, students have to do more to prove they have mastered the material. Many courses require at least ten hours a week of work, with some requiring even more. 


2. Intense Requirement for Self-discipline:
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​As I mentioned in an early blog about late bloomers, the brains of many students in their teens do not have a fully developed executive function, and they often lack the ability to manage their time and organized their assignments. 
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They often cannot figure out how to allot the appropriate amount of time to complete each task. Teens also tend toward procrastination, and they need an accountability partner, either from a parent or an outside source. 

3. Little to No Face-to-face Interaction:

Studying online is lonely. Sometimes there are instructors and other students in online classes, but building relationships with them is difficult. Students – especially those who are auditory learners who learn best through discussion – need someone to talk to about the concepts they are learning. Again, these students need more help with their online classes.

The other issue is that students often cannot complete the given assignments because they have past gaps in their knowledge, and the online courses do not (and cannot) address those issues. Again, these students need more in-person help to fill in the gaps.
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What Can Be Done?

Salman Kahn, the innovator behind the Kahn Academy, has written a book called The One World School House where he discusses the concept of a “Flipped Classroom.” The premise is that students do their introductory “lecture” learning online, but then work with an instructor to do problem solving and discussion in person.


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I was on the Cuesta College Campus this week and walked by the learning center where they offer tutoring. The reason colleges have tutoring centers on campus is because learning through lectures is not enough.
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When a student goes to tutoring, they are basically experiencing a “Flipped Classroom” model. 

The student may have listened to a lecture in person at a traditional school, or they may have watched some videos and read some online material in a computer based course, but either way, they have had an initial introduction to the information. The second step is to work through problem solving assignments with a teacher who can give instant feedback – something students need to be able to master the material.

In online courses, students sometimes find that they have worked really hard – going the wrong direction – and then need to start over. This wastes time, energy and motivation leading to discouragement. With someone guiding the class for the student, these frustrations can be minimized. 

The courses with the greatest challenges have to do with math because neither the online program nor the student can realize when a student is having a problem with a math gap from a long past math concept such as multiplying with a reciprocal when dividing fractions. The student continues to miss the answers to problems, and the computer course cannot help. 

Parents can definitely fill the role of teacher and mentor to their children, but often parents are busy working and keeping the household going, and they just do not have the time. Also, when it comes to teenage sons, these young men are ready to make a break from mom in particular, and she usually is not the best person to be an educational accountability partner at this stage of parenting. 
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We all want to provide the very best education for our children, and online courses can play an important part in that process. However, it is important to realize that with the benefits of flexibility and reduced commutes come the challenges of time management, self-discipline and the need for in-person feedback. Tutoring can help.
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Wishing you joy on the journey,
Debra Newby
www.UpandOverED.com 

Debra Newby is a credential teacher in biology and chemistry, an academic tutor, a life coach and a parent mentor on California’s Central Coast. If you would like more information on the ways she can help you navigate the adventure of raising children, please contact her at info@UpandOverED.com


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How Can My Child Make A Fresh Start in This New School Year?            (And How Can Parents Help?)

8/1/2019

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A new school year is about to begin! After thirty years of parenting, homeschooling and tutoring, I still feel like the year actually begins when school is back in session. It is a time to switch gears, form new habits and aim for changes that lead to successfully reaching goals.

But how?

This summer, I read the book Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard by Chip and Dan Heath. The authors present ideas that can be applied to students in school as well. 
The premise of their book is that our decision making is controlled by both rational side and our emotional side, and we need tools to be able to appeal to both sides to make changes.

Jonathan Haidt, author of The Happiness Hypothesis explains it this way. He says that our emotional side is an Elephant and our rational side is the Elephant’s Rider. The Rider seems to be the one in control since the Rider holds the reins. But the Elephant is much larger, and when the Rider and Elephant do not agree on which direction to go, the emotional-side Elephant is going to win.
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While the Rider is the long-term thinker who is in charge of planning and direction, the Elephant is source of love, loyalty, sympathy and compassion. But the elephant is also the one who wants immediate gratification, and when there is a choice between an ice cream today or better health next month, the Elephant will choose the ice cream every time.
 
So it is important to help both the rational mind “Rider” and the emotional mind “Elephant.”

Here are ways to help your student’s Rider:

1. Provide Clarity: Sometimes when a student cannot complete an assignment, it is because the Rider does not know exactly where it is supposed to go. Students can check with their teacher or fellow students to make sure they correctly understand the expectations. A parent or tutor can also help clarify concepts and academic material.

2. Limit the Number of Decisions a Student Needs to Make: Self-control is a limited resource, and when a student is tired and 
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overwhelmed, the Rider does not have much of a chance to change to the Elephant’s direction. (And that Elephant does not want to do the difficult homework assignment.)

3. Look for Bright Spots: Discover what is working and help the student focus on more of that. Usually when a parent sees a report card that says their child earned four “A”’s and one “F”, the parent spends most of the discussion time on the “F.” But an interesting twist would be to explore what the student did to make the “A”’s possible and encourage them to figure out how to replicate that in other classes.

4. Create a Destination Postcard: Make a mental and verbal picture of what the end goal will be. Standing here a year from now, what do you want to have accomplished? What kind of person will you have become? What new skills will you have acquired? Get a picture of that now, and then head in that direction.

5. Script Moves: Have a steady habit of times and places where achieving goals can happen. A designated desk where school work it done and a certain time slot every day that is set aside to complete that work can help.

The Elephant needs help too.

1. Find the Feeling: The Elephant may know that getting good grades is a logical thing to do, but it means a lot more if a student can connect their feelings and identity to what they do in school. If they ask themselves questions like “What kind of person am I?” and answer that with, “I am a 

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