We read aloud to our kids in the evening even when they were in their teens because we wanted our family to be able to discuss the information we were learning while we were learning it. When it comes to understanding family members, one of the best books we read out loud to our kids was, The Gift of Dyslexia by Ronald D. Davis. Our middle child was dyslexic, and it bothered him that that he was such a late reader that his younger sister learned to read before he did. He considered his learning disabilities to be a disadvantage until we read The Gift of Dyslexia. When we finished the book, my dyslexic child’s siblings exclaimed, “That is so cool how you see the world!” They learned that those with dyslexia think and perceive multidimensionally, think in pictures instead of words and can utilize the brain’s ability to alter and create new perceptions.
While one child was dyslexic, another one was introverted. A book that helped us all understand her better was The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney. Reading that book allowed my introverted daughter to feel that she could accept herself and be grateful for her particular strengths and not feel like
There are many books that can help us understand ourselves and others. Two of the first books we used when the kids were pretty young were Discover Your Child’s Learning Style by M. Willis and V.K. Hodson and Discover Your God Given Gifts by Don and Katie Fortune. Both of these books contain questionnaire-type tests that allowed us to learn even more about our natural abilities and learning styles.
1. Extroverted (Get energy from outside themselves) or Introverted (Energized by being alone)
2. Intuitive (Deal with ideas and live in future) or Sensing (Deal with facts and live in the now.)
3. Thinking (Follow their minds, facts and logic) or Feeling (Follow their hearts, feelings and impact on others.)
4. Judging (Decisive, attending to details, task oriented) or Perceiving (Relaxed, prefer freedom and flexibility)
The test results will link to job options and other useful information that fit the given personality type. A book that goes along with Myers Briggs personality types is Do What You Are by P.D Tiger.
Isabel Briggs Myers once said, “We cannot safely assume that other people's minds work on the same principles as our own. All too often, others with whom we come in contact do not reason as we reason, or do not value the things we value, or are not interested in what interests us.”
This quote is especially important for the children in our society. Kids spend many hours and numerous years in school. For parents
Ms. Trunk gives the reason why. She states, “Myers Briggs is an incredibly effective tool to help people create a good life for themselves, but we don’t use it on kids. Why not? Here’s why. Because school caters to kids who score an ISTJ on the test. This is about 10% of all kids. This means that 90% of kids are not doing what is best for them by learning in school. But what would be the point of making this information widely known when there is nothing schools can do about it?”
A lot of parents are looking for alternative ways of educating their children, and knowing a child’s personality type can help with evaluating those options. For students in a school setting that they find challenging, they can still be successful, but they may need extra tools or tutoring to reach their goals.
According to Isabel Briggs Myers,
“Whatever the circumstances of your life, the understanding of type can make your perceptions clearer, your judgements sounder, and your life closer to your heart's desire.”
And isn’t this what we all long for? For a fun activity this weekend, consider gathering the family together and taking a Myers Briggs test and see what you can learn about yourselves and each other. Learning about our personality types was life changing for our family, and I hope that it will be for yours.
To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.” Socrates
Wishing you joy on the journey,
Debra Newby is a credential teacher in biology and chemistry, an academic tutor, a life coach and a parent mentor on California’s Central Coast. If you would like more information on the ways she can help you navigate the adventure of raising children, please contact her at info@UpandOverED.com